Mates of One Another

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Allah SWT tells us in the Qur’an that we are created in pairs.  That together with our spouse we are created to be Mates of One Another. The Muslim concept of marriage is unique and beautiful in both it’s simplicity and it’s focus on the rights and obligations of each person in the couple towards their Lord, themselves AND their partner.

When we read the Qur’an we find the nature of men and women revealed.  All discussion about rights and obligations that each spouse has over the other or can expect from the other is based on the characteristics that make each man uniquely male and each female uniquely female.

“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those…

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Love Actually

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ImageI read a post on Facebook this morning.  Actually it was meant to be a joke. It was about a wife who left a note for her husband telling him she was leaving him.  When he came home, he read the note which had been left in their bedroom, wrote something on it and then made a phonecall to a mysterious “honey”,  saying his wife was a fool, he should never have married her and he was coming over to see the  “honey”.   He left left the room and his wife who had been hiding under the bed came out from under the bed where she was hiding, to read what he had written.

His reply..

I could see your feet under the bed
you silly wife, I am going to buy
bread. Stand up, stop your silly
games and prepare me a meal
because I’m very hungry!


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Fix Your Heart on the Source of Tranquility

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1509272_699593986730784_1113384149_nHe who keeps his heart near Allah will find peace and tranquility, whilst he who gives his heart to the people will find restlessness and apprehension.

Scholar: Ibn Qayyim Al Jawziyyah

I was asked a question yesterday on dealing with something that is allowed Islamically but which may end up being challenging and require a lot of sabr.  My response was immediate and I ask Allah SWT to make it true for me always insha’Allah.   I replied that I trust my Lord is taking care of me and can trust Him to continue taking care of me and that is enough for me.

In my journey as a Muslim I can’t count the number of times I’ve been surprised or challenged by life, people, family, circumstances. Sometimes I wonder about when they will stop happening, but of course we are told that we need to expect them.. that challenges and…

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You are Never Happier Than you are Content

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I was inspired recently by this reminder from Dr Bilal Phillips on Facebook.  Society today is being torn apart by the relentless pursuit of happiness.  People change careers, spend money, save money, marry, divorce, remarry….the list goes on. In almost all cases it’s in the hope that life will become happier if they leave this relationship, or go into that one… purchase this item or leave this job for that one.

Reality is.. Allah SWT says in the translated  Quran that all mankind is at loss  except those who

1. Believe

2 Do Righteous Deeds

3. Advise each other to truth and patience.

Sura Al Asr  (103)

As a Muslim, I have a choice before me… I can live like the non believer and try to find my happiness in the pursuit of worldly pleasures or I can learn the truth that none of these things will ever make me truly…

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Seize the Day or Seize the Moment?

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Carpe Diem. I used to use that phrase often. Seize the Day. Every day brings it’s own experiences.. some I am so thankful for and others I wish I didn’t have to experience, yet still in their own way a benefit I ought to be thankful for, yet in my human weakness, I struggle to accept.

Then I read Surah Al Asr ..

By Al-’Asr (the time). Verily, man is in loss. Except those who believe and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth and recommend one another to patience.” (Quran 103)

Here Allah tells us it’s not enough to “Seize the Day”. We need to “Seize Every Second” As Muslims we understand that time is borrowed. It’s given to us to use, but we are accountable for it. Angels record our actions and our words and every second is accounted for.

Prophet Muhammad said…

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Confronting Your Fears

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ImageOne day the Messenger of Allah (saws) noticed a ‘bedouin’ (desert Arab) leaving his camel without tying it and he asked the ‘bedouin’: “Why don’t you tie down your camel?” The ‘bedouin’ answered, “I put my trust in Allah.” The Prophet (saws) then said, “Tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah”

Related by At-Tirmidhi.

I had to use public transport today. I was returning home and the train system in my home town is undergoing maintenance and I needed to use a bus as well as the normal trains I use to do the short trip home from where I was visiting.  

For most people, this may not seem so big a problem.. Yet, how often do we find small problems appear to be big mountains. Mountains that we find imposing, even frightening.  Some of them appear  insurmountable, and others challenge us. This is a little how…

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New Beginnings: He is What you Expect Him to Be

Although I wrote this a few years ago.. as most of the world is about to enter another New Year in 2017 .. these words are just as relevant today as they were back then .. Al Hamdulillah

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My Lord is with me.As the world celebrates the start of 2015, I am so grateful to My Lord that I don’t have to wait for another year to begin to make resolutions or to anticipate new beginnings.   The beautiful thing about being a Muslim is that you don’t need 10 minutes of wasted money spent on fireworks to farewell the old and welcome the new.

Every day for a Muslim is a new opportunity.. a new beginning.  No matter what the day brought yesterday, today brings a a new hope, a new promise.  No sin from yesterday is too  serious to be forgiven by His Mercy.  No problem from yesterday is too insurmountable to be solved today.  No sadness from yesterday is too deep to be raised to a new sense of hope today.

Today is a new opportunity to be grateful for every new mercy, for every new problem solved and…

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